Boobs…
Now this is not a boxer or briefs kind of post even though I’m a butt man, and a great basement or balcony always adds to the appreciation of the house.
I know I think I married about the perfect booty.
No this is serious…Anne Jackson recently had a post on boobs…more here.…and it got me thinking about all the men (and women) who struggle with lust. In this culture of less is more and many women trying to fit a misses body into a junior cut…is there a responsibility to others?
1 Corinthians 8:9…Be careful, however, that the exercise of your freedom does not become a stumbling block to the weak.
I’m curious…don’t raise a cup to a brother’s lips or boobs to his eyes…
Do women…and men in certain situations, need to be more aware of others and their struggles or should men specifically, just be more disciplined in looking away…I mean you can’t control what walks in front of you but we can control at what we take a second look…second looks are usually of the lustful variety…thirds are definitive.
So who’s the heavy here…the “wear something different” or the “suck it up and don’t look then”?
May 9, 2008 at 7:17 am
I like love…
Love one another…
Love one another ….
If its an either or, then yes… both if its in love….
May 9, 2008 at 7:32 am
I prefer to take responsibility for my own actions and not expect someone else to do it for me. So, I’m fairly modest in my attire.
But that’s just me.
May 9, 2008 at 12:16 pm
I think all men, at puberty, should be given a pair of race horse blinders that fit below the eye. Would make life alot easier
May 9, 2008 at 12:40 pm
avery…difficult to show a brotherly love when we’re always trying to get others to notice us or always trying to notice…doesn’t sound like faith.
cindy…i knew you’d say that. you’re not dressing like the compound women in your home state are you?
roger…every stallion needs a good set of blinders…i like that.
May 9, 2008 at 3:28 pm
Oh… Michael…
I meant more along the lines of modesty, and of also not looking…
I didn’t mean what you think… I meant the real definition of love… the one that loves others enough not to tempt them to sin, and that loves others enough not to fantasize about them as a piece of meat, but a proper view of love, building them up, looking out for interests of others…
Love is modest, and it exercises restraint… it doesn’t gloss over sin…
Just for clarity… maybe I was too soft in my first response because of the context and redefinition of “love” this culture seems to be gathering…
Sorry… I’ll try to be more clear in the future
May 9, 2008 at 3:50 pm
Often lust is thought to be a man’s issue and attire a woman’s issue, but it goes both ways. I believe both genders need to be more aware of what they wear (or don’t) and how it affects others. Both genders need to live in such a way that their thoughts, actions, and visualizations are more controlled.
Ultimately I think it comes down to the heart and what it is committed to. If we view each person as an image of God, if we choose love, realize each person can stumble in their faith because of what we do/don’t do, and everything we do is a representation of God it changs things. We need to learn to take sin very seriously and address it fully every time it arises instead of justifying it and using the fact we will at times sin as an excuse to not deal with it any time an opportunity is presented before our eyes. Who is in charge ….you or God?
May 9, 2008 at 4:30 pm
avery…my bad…you’re right on, love does not tempt and love does not make someone the object of lust…sorry i missed it the first time. that’s definitely a high standard if we could just submit to it.
sherie….i totally agree. my memory verse this week is hebrews 4:13…nothing in all creation is hidden from god’s sight. everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.
so…everything is spiritual…it is either done out of a place of faith or sin…romans 14:23
May 9, 2008 at 5:50 pm
King David took a second look. Boy, did he get in trouble. Spring has sprung and the skirts and dresses are out of my winter closet. New fashions these days are requiring special undergarments (additional clothing) to hide the … well, you know. I believe people have to take responsibility for how often they look, but I don’t like to think that I’m causing someone to stumble. Soooo…when I caught a guy, recently, trying to look down my blouse (which was done up by the way), I decided to literally sweat it out with a camisole next time I wore that shirt. It’s gonna be a long, hot summer, but just for me not for the LOOKERS.
May 9, 2008 at 6:32 pm
Well this will probably come across as condemning, but I saw a tv show on hollywood kids yesterday where they talked about Jessica Simpson’s father starting her off as a CCM singer. When that didn’t go as successfully as he hoped, he started selling her as a pop singer with, as her father put it, “double D’s”.
Jessica Alba has been held up as a young Christian, and is now pregnant out of wedlock and her Punk’d episode was memorable for her creative and repetitive use of the “fbomb”.
Do I even need to say more than Big Brother 9 and Team Christ?
You’ve allowed the world to claim the title of “Born Again Christian” for their own. Your children simply want the same things their “Christian” peers have when they get to be young people. If showing a little cleavage, some below the bellybutton hiphugged flesh, a strategic tattoo dipping into the back of very tight but tastefully expensive jeans is what their “Christian” peers get, well why shouldn’t they?
I keep trying to tell you people, I call you aliens for a reason. This is not your world. No matter how much you want to buy into that lie.
May 9, 2008 at 6:44 pm
I grew up with the guilt that if I showed “too much skin” i.e. shorts (not even short ones!) or even a shirt with words across the, ahem, as to draw attention…..and if some guy looks at me with lust in his heart (cause I can really control that) I’m the bad guy. Wow, tough to grow up constantly guilty.
I do think we (women) have to be careful with what we wear. You are right Hope, fashions change and some years turtlenecks are in style and some years v-necks are in. I think we need to think about WHY we are wearing something too….is it to draw attention or is it just a dang cute top. But if it doesn’t bring glory to GOD and give the wrong impression of ME (who I SAY I am in Christ) then maybe we should rethink. I also think in raising our daughter to be modest and respectful of herself, I have to steer away from playing the guilt card. Any suggestions??? I’ve heard myself more than once saying “If I were going to dinner with Jesus, would I wear this?” Is that totally retarded cause I heard it in the 80’s or is it still the real deal?